“There are never too many good deeds”: who is helped by the project “Mnogomama. About the Center Fire survivors need help

It is often hard for us to imagine what a family is, where there are four, five, eight, or even more children. And even more so, a mother of many children, raising children alone. In addition to material costs, mothers of many children, especially those who live without dads, need incredibly great mental strength, a lot of patience, love, hope and Faith!

In the conditions of today's life, having many children is a real feat! And not only because it is connected with material well-being, but also because, because of its hardness of heart, having many children began to be condemned.

People who condemn large families sincerely believe that in order to have a child, you first need to stand firmly on your own feet, then put at least one child on its feet, and this requires significant funds. However, at the same time, a strange pattern was revealed: the better the material and living conditions, the more often the family is limited to the birth of one child.

Children in large families develop very quickly. It is more difficult for them to grow up spoiled and lazy.They get used to working and helping their mother from childhood, eat and treat your brothers and sisters with love.

We are convinced that we must do everything in our power to help families with many children who find themselves in a difficult financial and psychological situation. And we are trying to do it.

How we help

Usually everything happens like this: a mother of many children who finds herself in a difficult life situation, having learned about the Fund, calls our "crisis" phone. Then our psychologist Elena Nikolaevna goes to the family home, talks, takes copies of all the necessary documents. If the psychologist and the head of the foundation are convinced that help is really needed, we write a story about the family and post it on the website.

From the funds donated through the site, every month we issue benefits, the amount of which is set for each family, depending on how difficult the situation is. With this money, parents buy food and other necessary things for children. Families are under the care of the foundation as long as they need help.

A very important part of the help is spiritual nourishment.We always invite our ward families to the church of St. Equal-to-the-Apstoles Mary Magdalene (under whom our Foundation exists).On Saturdays, during the evening service, mothers come to talk with the rector of the temple, Fr. Daniel, where they can ask all questions. Parents and children also receive strengthening in the Sacraments of Confession and Communion. If parents do not have church acquaintances, we help to find godparents for children.

More than 100 families with many children from St. Petersburg and the Leningrad Region receive assistance every month.

Contacts and groups in social networks:

All requests for help posted on the site are relevant!!!

Fire survivors need help

The baby of our ward Lyudmila is already four and a half months old. The woman applied in connection with the fire experienced during pregnancy. Thank God no one was hurt, but the whole apartment burned out, the family lost all their property (furniture, appliances, things), all the walls, frames and doors burned out.

Fortunately, the family was provided with temporary housing from the city, where Lyudmila now lives with a small child. In the burnt-out apartment, with the help of kind people who sent help, repairs are being made little by little, but much is still ahead. Due to lack of funds, the family has been trying to put their housing in order for more than a year now. Lyudmila is helped by her mother, who has two minor children (Ludmila's younger sister and brother) to raise. In order to earn some money, Lyudmila works part-time while the baby is with her grandmother. The woman is trying on her own to do something to repair the apartment, since the father of the child does not take any part in the life of her little son, and there are still schoolchildren (younger brother and sister) in her arms.

Any help and response to the request of the ward Lyudmila is still very relevant. To repair the kitchen, drywall is needed (3 meters, since the ceilings are 3 meters), the mortar falls off, the walls of the old apartment are so burned out, and we also need guides, bars for fixing it and linoleum on the floor.

From furniture, you really need a wardrobe or / and absolutely any chest of drawers in order to put things somewhere for the first time. Any furniture (kitchen or hallway is also relevant for the family of fire victims).

For her little son Bogdan, Lyudmila asked to donate any clothes for the season, as well as rompers / bodysuits from 80 cm. We always need absorbent diapers, diapers No. 5, Malyutka1 milk formula, baby food and cereals by age.

Hope for help

Family of Maria and Maxim (No. 38) has been living without a refrigerator for more than two and a half months. There are four small children in her arms: Lenochka (6 years old), Stanislava (2 years old), Ulyana (4 years old) and Serafim (4 months old).

The family hopes for a Christmas miracle, as for more than a month, unfortunately, there has been no response to a request to donate a refrigerator. The family lives outside the city, but you can bring a refrigerator to our southern point of issue / receipt of assistance at the Church of the Smolensk Icon of the Mother of God on Petersburg Highway 68, from where it will be more convenient to transport household appliances to the family in the Gatchinsky district.

Our dears, maybe someone has a used refrigerator that works without extraneous odors. The family will appreciate such a wonderful donation. Our wards live rather modestly in a village in the Leningrad region: Maria sings for a small fee in the church, and Maxim earns extra money in construction and repair in all possible ways that he finds in the village and nearby.

Please help the family with the purchase of medicines!

Dear friends, Nadezhda, the eldest daughter of a mother of many children, Maria, who suffers from sarcoma, made an urgent request. The family needs to buy pain medication for mom. It is necessary to redeem in advance two weeks in advance, still using the old forms, after the New Year new forms will be introduced, prescriptions for which, most likely, will not be released until January 13 (after all, the regional hospital). Otherwise, for the next two weeks, Maria runs the risk of being left without the necessary painkillers (Durogesic, Tramadol, Pregabalin, Lenuxin, Melaxen, an anesthetic patch and other prescription drugs will be bathed - a total of about 12,000 rubles).

Aerosol Skin-cap is always needed (unfortunately, analogues are not suitable)! The medicines taken by the sick woman cause such outbreaks of psoriasis that sometimes the veins on the hands are not visible for the doctor to give an injection, not to mention the painful sensations experienced by Maria. One bottle is not enough for a long time, but it costs about 1700 rubles.

Please support our families!

Dear friends, support continues to be provided to the family of the widow mother Natalya, who is raising her son Kolya, who suffers from cerebral palsy. The young man is studying in the 8th grade of a music school on an individual basis. He plays the piano, sings - he has good vocal abilities, he loves to sing in the church choir. Mother makes every effort to ensure that Kolya enters adulthood, having a profession, which is facilitated by his musical abilities. But the child is constantly failing health.

In January, Kolya will have another hospitalization - he needs to be examined, and the dosage of medications for further therapy should be determined again. The young man suffers from teenage hypertension, which is superimposed on the main diagnosis. One evening he had a severe headache, they called an ambulance, it turned out to be critically high pressure and the child was hospitalized at the Research Institute. V. A. Almazova. The doctors explained that the observed hypertension is due to the fact that the vessels do not keep up with the growth of body tissues, and perhaps the consequences of the accident experienced in childhood are superimposed. To control the pressure, you need constant medication.

We ask for support for Tamara's family

Dear friends, we will be very grateful if you help support Tamara, a mother of seven children, of which four are minor sons (all schoolchildren). The woman works three jobs as a cleaner, cleans the office, washes the floors in the theater and in the temple for little pay. In the theater, my mother has been working seven days a week for a long time, that is, she arrives every day at six in the morning and for several hours in a row washes the lobby and the premises of "her" part of the theater, then hurries to the next job - to clean the office or the temple.

Despite many years of fatigue and the lack of "days off" or just time to relax, Tamara does not grumble, rejoicing that she has a job, knowing from experience how difficult it is for a mother of many children to find a job and how easy it is to be left without a vital income, one has only to miss a work day, even for reasons beyond your control.

Autonomous Non-Profit Organization

Help Center for Large Families "MnogoMama"

PSRN 1147799014263

TIN 7722401903

Checkpoint 772201001

Moscow, st. Samokatnaya, 2A building 1,
+7 963 664 5223

The main goals of the MultiMama project:

Support for large families (targeted assistance, training, cultural development, assistance in organizing and developing a business, socialization of parents and children);
Revival of the tradition of large families in Russia (creation of a new socially significant image of a large family);
The formation of large families by the elite of Russia.

We all come from childhood. From time immemorial, the greatness and strength of our country rested on large strong families in which many children were brought up. In these very families, with mother's milk, the great values of our people were absorbed - kindness, generosity, compassion, care for one's neighbor, love for the Motherland. Growing up, such children treat the world as a big family - with respect and love. All the heroes who gave their lives in the battles for the Fatherland came from large families.

Today, our country especially needs to strengthen spiritual values and form a healthy society. Therefore, we want to revive the tradition of large families in Russia, to create decent living conditions for families with many children. After all, in our aspiration is the future of the country.

We support over 75,000 large families throughout Russia, 40,000 of them in Moscow and the Moscow region.

Any of your participation in the project (money, things, products, discounts on goods and services, personal time when joining the ranks of volunteers) is a help to real people, families with children. Behind each such help can be the joy of children, the support of parents, and sometimes a saved life. But the main thing is that only together we can create the future in which we and our children will live.

Who are we?

WE are as large as you, ready to spend a piece of our warmth, knowledge, time, money to make this world a little better. Join our ranks, get the support you need, help those who can't cope without you!

About the Center for Assistance to Large Families

Dear mums!

In order to avoid all sorts of unpleasant incidents and mutual reproaches for misunderstanding, we bring to your attention step-by-step instructions for mutually fruitful, and most importantly, correct cooperation with our center.

1. In any request you specify:

Full name and age of all for whom this assistance is provided;

Contact number;
- correct and working e-mail;

Number of a large certificate;

2. Only after confirmation from ANO "MnogoMama" and you are included in the final list for receiving any type of assistance, you can drive to the address indicated in the letter. This rule must be strictly observed. Violating it will be added to the black list!

3. At the meeting, you need to have a certificate of a large family with you, confirming your right to benefits.

4. At the end of any event, a photo report is sent to the post office by each family. If it is not possible to make a photo report yourself, ask volunteers for help.

5. Any cooperation with our center is bilateral and voluntary, therefore, the responsibility for possible errors on one side or the other is also mutual.

Let's value each other's time, because every lost minute is a lost business and benefit!

The Center for Assistance to Large Families "MnogoMama" is always glad to welcome new guests on its website and at its seminars. Large families - the future of Russia and this is the future we are shaping right now. We hold free master classes, seminars, get tickets to concerts, teach, help find a job and ourselves, look for sponsors and partners to help families in difficult situations and do many other interesting and good things.

Who are we? WE are as large as you, who have spent a piece of our warmth, knowledge, time, money to make this world a little better. Join our ranks, get the support you need, help those who can't cope without you!

Large families of all countries unite!

Dear parents of large families, if you find yourself in a difficult life situation and you need help, please contact us immediately!

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Four years ago, a project appeared in Russia that turned the life and way of thinking of several thousand large families in various regions of the country. At the same time, a new word appeared - “Mnogomama” in relation to women raising three or more children.

Today, "MnogoMama" is a center that helps 52 thousand large families throughout Russia, and a whole movement with its own philosophy and civic position. Alina Kontareva, President of ANO CPMS "MnogoMama", told "Philanthropist" about the project and shared with readers tips for families with many children.

Alina Kontareva

— Alina, how did you come up with the idea to gather a large number of mothers from different parts of the country on one virtual (and real too) platform?

- First, the word appeared, the name itself - "Mnogomama". An incomprehensible word form that did not appear then either in the dictionary or on the network, but since by that time I myself was already a mother of many children and was “in the subject” of the problems of large families, the word form was quickly transformed into a domain name, and a little later - into a website , where I posted information about benefits, subsidies, raised topics that are most often of interest to large families. In parallel, I was implementing a large photo project "Large families - the future of Russia." I wanted to change the prevailing idea of large families through photographs, to show how happy, friendly and beautiful they are. I spent a large number of photo shoots, met new women, men, children and unwittingly became a witness to acute situations, unfortunately, frequent in large families. Having shot more than eighty photo stories, I realized that most of my heroes need not only moral support, but also quite real, tangible social and material assistance. So in September 2014, the Center for Assistance to Large Families “MnogoMama” appeared.

- How exactly does "Mnogomama" support families, and who can count on the help of the center?

Our mission is, first of all, the popularization of family values, the institution of the family and motherhood in our country, the return to the traditions of the cult of the family and the education of a morally and spiritually healthy younger generation. We want to revive the tradition of large families and a favorable attitude towards large families in Russia, to create decent living conditions for large families, thus stimulating the movement of society towards conscious parenthood.

Since all employees of "Mnogomama" are parents of many children, we show by our own example that children not only do not interfere with success in their careers, business and personal growth, but, on the contrary, bring unlimited happiness to their parents' lives, inspire them to exploits.

We support families with children throughout Russia. Our mothers bring up from 3 to 16 children. There are families with adopted children, there are those who bring up children with special needs, children with disabilities. Support within the framework of the project can be very different, the main task is to help parents not “fall out of life” and not get bogged down in the endless solution of numerous problems associated with having many children. Through us, you can receive the most up-to-date information about social programs and bills, psychological and legal support, all kinds of consultations; thanks to our friendship and partnership with a huge number of entertainment and educational organizations, we help to provide our wards with leisure, give them the opportunity to engage in self-education, attend various seminars, participate in competitions, receive social assistance, realize their creative ambitions and, most importantly, receive financial assistance , be able to stand up to adapt and survive difficult times.

— Today you have a colossal amount of work: under the care of the MnogoMama center there are more than 52 thousand large families throughout Russia, who are helped in 20 branches of the country. What difficulties do people come with? Does each region have its own request to the “MnogoMama” Center or do all families with a large number of children have the same “trouble”?

Almost all large families have similar problems: what and how to feed, what to wear, how to entertain a large company and other “difficulties of life”. Geography does not play a special role, each family has its own difficulties. One of the programs most demanded by our wards is targeted assistance to families in difficult life situations. Our volunteers assess the situation on the spot and help exactly what the family is in dire need of. At the same time, we do not use the methods of information publicity, which many people who find themselves in a difficult situation are so afraid of. We try to help quietly. For sponsors and philanthropists, only a photo report on the work done to improve the situation of the family is provided.

- You say "our volunteers". Is it true that all of your employees are volunteers, pro bono, including you?

- Truth. Our team is the most ordinary parents with many children, mothers and fathers. We all work on a voluntary basis or with the support of philanthropists. Neither the leader nor the volunteers receive any wages.

- It turns out that it is easy to attract people who are “in the subject” of having many children to the project. Can the same be said for donors? Is it easy to involve them in helping the project?

— When it all started — the first year of the center — it was incredibly difficult and financially costly. “MnogoMama” worked on the full support of Kontra Studio, my photographic company, but a team of volunteers gradually formed - exactly the same parents of large families, not indifferent to someone else's misfortune, who do a tremendous job every day and almost every minute. Behind each new philanthropist, an organization that helps the Center "MnogoMama", there is a huge work, many hours of calls and kilometer-long correspondence. Basically, we ourselves are looking for organizations that are ready to help, partners, philanthropists for the holidays, discussing the conditions. Some of the wards need help with clothes, shoes, food, others need access to theaters, museums, and entertainment venues. Sometimes you need help with delivery, sometimes you need to help at a holiday, take photos, report to philanthropists, coordinate the work of volunteers. Thanks to the personal example of our employees, there are new assistants and new benefactors. We can do everything: unload a truck with watermelons, and organize a reception for the president, but, as a public organization, we cannot promote our programs with state money, which is allocated for social programs for large families. Nevertheless, the number of our beneficiaries is growing every day, the needs dictated by the market are increasing, we need funds to provide effective and timely assistance to large families, and new directions of the “MnogoMama” Center also require funding. In addition, we know very well where it is better to direct and how to distribute state support, how to make it work, and not impersonal, and we are looking forward to cooperation with the state.

— Are there many examples of NGOs that, together with you, help families with many children? Do you have competitors?

- There is no need to talk about competition, since there are not many good deeds.

We have a huge number of families in our country who need help, so we can talk about the need for competition and the creation of as many centers to help people as possible. So we are looking for competitors, or, better to say, associates for solving common problems.

- In general, it is customary for us to complain about the attitude of the state towards large families, they say, there are no conditions, no support, but how are things in other countries? And what comparative assessment can be made of our social policy in the field of supporting large families?

— Similar programs are being implemented in many, but not all, European countries with a developed and large-scale family policy, for example, in France, Sweden, and Slovenia. There, for large families with incomes below the subsistence level, there is a system of additional benefits, for example, to pay for housing and preschool institutions. Families with many children enjoy various tax benefits, and each newborn reduces the tax base. In France, about 45% of all payments are made to families with many children. Also, in some countries there is a coupon system of subsidies: members of large families are given special coupons for food. Of course, European programs are significantly different from the state aid we are used to. During an internship in Germany, I was surprised to learn that there is simply no traditional support, in our understanding, for large families in Germany. There is no maternity capital as a means of stimulating fertility. There, no one singles out large families, and, as a rule, they do not have priority over other families, but families with many children can take advantage of benefits in the taxation system. Thanks to our representative in Berlin, we saw the other side of large families and realized that our state support and its implementation, although not ideal, are significant, compared to support for large families in Germany. And in the United States, the country's social policy is based on the principle that the main responsibility for the well-being of a person lies, first of all, on him.

The state undertakes to help certain, the most vulnerable, categories of the population whose income is below a certain level. In Russia, there are also preferential conditions. These include a discount on utility bills, free travel on intracity transport, the allocation of land plots (although, it must be said, this program is not being implemented quite correctly now), free vouchers to health resorts for children who need it, priority admission to kindergartens and others. For categories such as low-income families and families with disabled children, there are more expanded social programs. Most often they are not known because of the strong employment with children. Naturally, those social programs that the state is currently implementing require improvements. Here, for example, a travel allowance in the Moscow region is granted to only one parent. And the second, it turns out, does not need to travel at all. This is fundamentally wrong, because sometimes two or three bus stops that you can drive, and not walk, pushing the stroller through the snow, while persuading older children to be faster, greatly save time and nerves, and sometimes the health of mothers with many children and children . First of all, it is necessary to find out the needs of people, to conduct surveys about what families with many children need in a particular region. And, of course, to cut at the state level that Gordian knot of the housing issue, which is very acute for families with many children.

- Let's move on from global problems to global project plans, and maybe even dreams. What awaits "MnogoMam" and those who aim in them this year? What are the interesting activities and events?

— Each of our projects, each direction is global in its essence, as they help people in one form or another. In 2018, in addition to major public holidays, we plan to hold several major sports and entertainment events. We also plan to continue the Kilometers of Good Deeds rally. We have held it three times already and we can say with confidence that this is an important and very necessary event that helps to solve the pressing problems of the branches of the ANO CPMS "Mnogomama", to provide much-needed assistance to needy families in time, to make friends not only with families - cities. Preliminary dates for the next trips have already been determined: in June, a run around the Moscow region will take place, and in July, “Kilometers of Good Deeds” will be met in sunny Anapa.

Tips for Parents

Work on self-organization. The most important thing in the life of a large family is organization. A clear understanding of problems and needs also allows a clear idea of how to solve them. Try not to bring your life to the point of "zero", when all the money, all the products, diapers or clothes are over, think about how to solve the problem a little before the deadline.
Feel free to ask for help. If something went wrong with the first point, an emergency or another problem happened, do not hesitate to ask for help from relatives, friends, public organizations, thematic forums. Many are afraid to take their problems “to the public” or do not believe in gratuitous help, which only exacerbates the situation, and from scratch: after all, people are happy to share the things that their children have grown out of, toys and even food supplies, volunteers and specialists from charitable foundations actively assist in solving bureaucratic and legal issues and so on. Feel free to contact us! We will not publicize your situation, point fingers, publish photos on social networks without asking, but we will be able to quickly resolve the issue.
Move. In all directions: both physical and movement towards the goal is necessary. Under a lying stone, as you know, water does not flow. As family well-being does not flow. Do not "sit on maternity leave" in the literal sense. This well-established phrase alone makes a woman a hostage to a stereotype, and after all, a decree is that favorable time when you can learn new professions, acquire skills and transform hobbies and hobbies into a profitable business: from knitting to order and ending with foreign translations. Engage in your own development, look for opportunities to earn money on maternity leave so as not to break away from your family, sew clothes, do repairs, take care of animals, maintain social media accounts, work as nannies - find what you are good at and what you like just for you.

Optimize your budget. Achieve zen - it is the balance between the expenses and incomes of your own family. It is difficult, but real: analyze consumption, plan large purchases in advance, exclude what you can, and sometimes you need to do without: quick snacks, snacks and convenience foods benefit only their producers, and not at all your health or wallet.

Try to be helpful to other people. Learn not only to take, but also to give. The main motto of the MnogoMama center is: "Helping others, you help yourself." And it really works.