What's the point for an add to friends. How to correctly ask a person why he added me as a friend? For what purpose are you adding as a friend?
VKontakte is one of the most popular social networks in Russia; according to statistics, it has at least 220 million users. Both young people and mature people all use the messenger to communicate, listen to music and view current news in their feed. It is not surprising that the popular social network is full of scammers - in an attempt to avoid falling for their tricks, users begin to be wary of being added as friends from unfamiliar accounts.
Why can people be added as friends if you don't know each other?
This is not obvious to all network users, but not every VKontakte account is real. A lot of pages are controlled by so-called “bots” - simple programs designed to send messages and collect information about users, or by real people performing the functions of a bot. Bots themselves do not cause any harm; they are advertising and management tools. Real people can also be added, they have enough reasons for this.
Advertising bots – how to identify them?
It is very easy to distinguish an advertising account from a regular one by the profile avatar and the information available on the page. Typically, the page is decorated with a photograph with a company logo or an image of a product; the account name itself may contain advertising. To be sure, go to the page and look at the publications. If these are continuous reposts or posts on a topic advertised by a bot, you can be sure that such an “interlocutor” will not offer you anything interesting.
Also, most bots, simultaneously with a friend request, begin a dialogue with a large standard advertising message, offering the service as clearly and comprehensively as possible. There is also a non-standard approach - an advertising agent can imitate a regular conversation, during which he tries to sell the same service, but using an individual approach.
PR agents
This category is similar to the previous one, but they do not advertise goods and services, but their own projects. These could be interest groups, local communities dedicated to some small business like a nail salon or a “design agency” for creating unique avatars.
Such users do not have the goal of attracting you specifically; they are engaged in group mailing. The more accounts follow the link, the better. They reveal their main offer in a message, and add them as friends for the sake of quantity.
People with thousands of “friends”
Social media is simply an imprint of society and not a separate universe. VKontakte operates exactly the same social laws as in the real world. The more friends there are on an account, the more prestigious it is considered. It’s even cooler to have a large number of subscribers - simple observers of the page.
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They can be added with specific requests - for example, send a personal message with anything, from a symbol to an emoticon, like a post on a page, or exchange likes for an avatar. This is a common boost to popularity.
If someone you don’t know is added to you, and their page doesn’t look like an advertisement, then most likely their goal is to get as many friends as possible to their page. Their quality is unimportant; in the list of these you can find hundreds of deleted pages.
Non-standard reasons for adding
All the categories described above are harmless and act solely in their own interests, without disturbing anyone, you can simply ignore them. But occasionally, the reason for adding a stranger as a friend may be for a more meaningful reason, positive or negative.
Offers to meet
People get to know each other on social networks, it’s natural. A girl or woman who has used an attractive photo for her avatar, but has limited access to the page (only friends can send private messages), will quite logically try to be added in order to communicate.
Unfortunately, such offers are not always harmless. Online harassment by men or online fraud by women's accounts is not uncommon. For an adult, such messages and attempts to “get to know each other” will only add reasons to laugh, but for a teenager or child they can be very dangerous. Children can do stupid things even on the eve of their majority - for example, sending personal information or explicit photos, which are then used for blackmail. Sometimes adults also fall for this.
Backup account for your friends
Many users create at least two accounts. One is public, and the second is exclusively for yourself, so that you can not hide your “online” status, publish and tag any materials. It is possible that a friend, friend or relative is trying to add you under the guise of a stranger, but especially for such cases, you can send a text note to the request.
Remember that in any case you are in control of the situation. You can not only refuse to add as a friend, leaving the page in subscribers, but also block it - this way the user will not be able to view the materials that you publish. Be careful about your Internet security.
what to answer the question the purpose of adding in a contact? I added a boy in contact and he asked this question and got the best answer
Answer from Nikolay Rumyantsev[newbie]
tell him you want him
Answer from Natalia[guru]
I'm conducting an experiment: "who will add me as a friend?" ahaha...
Answer from .
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add me.
Answer from Iuslan Barabin[newbie]
Anyone who asks such questions in contact is undoubtedly a person who has little understanding or does not even understand what PR is, including self-PR on the Internet. Moreover, people who ask such questions are “ineffective” users who are unlikely to show any activity in adding you as a friend. at least this is what practice indicates. that is, even if he adds you as a friend, it will be of minimal use in a practical sense, because such users are most often passive consumers of content, and more often than not, consumers who are always dissatisfied with something. If we do not take into account issues of PR and all sorts of promotion, then it seems to me that this user is simply a bore, fixated on some kind of Internet threats and, again, poorly versed in these same “threats” (pseudo-threats). Well, my answer to the question specifically posed here is this: if you submit a friend request for the purpose of PR/self-promotion or promotion of your groups, then write directly (although I personally, when a user asks me a similar question, I simply ignore it and cancel the request , because I don’t want to waste time on such people). but this is of course at your discretion, each individually. i.e. I am simply describing purely my opinion and my position on this matter in the case of self-PR or PR of groups. Your opinion may naturally differ from mine. however, if you want to see the user as your friends for the purpose of personal acquaintance and friendship (or even more), then IMHO, again, it is best to write it as it really is. i.e. just write the truth. Well, then everything will depend not on you, but on whether he believes you, and, naturally, on whether he is suspiciously paranoid in life or not.
Answer from Yergey Yakovlev[active]
AND FOR WHAT PURPOSE DID I ADD IT? I LIKE THIS SO SO YOU CAN WRITE AND ADD ME LET'S TALK! Sergey Yakovlev
Answer from Yovyatogor[guru]
Well, then tell me what you want. Chat, there, sex without obligations or create a strong family. Why are you writing to him? To be honest, it also annoys me when the hell out of my friends comes and, when I ask the question: “What do I owe?”, he simply disappears.
Friends who are constantly added on social networks are, at a minimum, acquaintances. Or at least acquaintances on the Internet (they once communicated on ICQ or were in the same guild in the game). So, if someone unknown is trying to become your friend and you don’t know who he is, then you should ask: “Who are you?” If he doesn’t answer, then he’s not even familiar and can be deleted in a week.
Friends include friends, relatives and acquaintances (including co-workers). If you don’t know which category a person belongs to, you need to find out who is offering you friendship, or more precisely, how they relate to you.
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It is impossible to add as a friend without confirming who you are trying to become a friend of (this is the term coined on the Internet for this procedure).
You can consider such an attempt from a stranger to be impolite and simply ignore the request. Sometimes strangers send a request and accompany it with a message. This seems more polite on their part. Further, it is at your discretion whether to add or not, answer or not.
Why waste your time trying to find out the motives of why some stranger is trying to be your friend? It is his concern to explain the reason, because for some reason it is he who needs it, and not you.
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How to correctly ask a person why he added me as a friend?
Why show correctness in this situation? When a stranger blatantly adds you as a friend, is that correctness on his part? They all pursue specific goals: some need to earn extra money from you (some paid services require that you have 100, 200 or 500 friends on social networks), others need to send spam, etc. There’s nothing to ask about this, just delete it immediately and block it in order to discourage him from your account once and for all.
You should add as friends those whom you know at least a little, if there are at least some mutual interests.
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I am one of those who find this question uncomfortable. I also often have different people added as friends. I mutually “friend” someone, and weed out someone who is not at all interesting to me in my feed.
And let them read. I do not mind. Even if they increase social capital and other goodies at my expense - please.
Anyone who has more friends in their contacts than you can actually read news from them is giving themselves away. Even though they will write that my magazine is incredibly interesting to them.
I never ask anyone why they do this. I judge from myself: such a reaction, for example, would scare me away. And it’s unlikely that I would have read and commented with the same attitude on the posts of a person who “gently asked” why I needed this. I am afraid of losing the same sensitive readers who could be mutually interesting to me.
I just make it difficult for myself to view the page of the person who has friended me, and I make a friend based on the results of viewing.
Maybe it would be easier somewhere in the top post, if the resource where everything happens suggests this, to ask potential friends to write a few words about themselves in the comments? The most adequate and most delicate and vulnerable visitor to your magazine will regard this as an interest in him and will definitely unsubscribe. And the silent ones will remain silent anyway.
It would be good if you, in your top post, write a few words about yourself and those whom you would be glad to see as your friends.
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You can say hello, ask various clarifying questions, or hint at something, but, as a rule, this does not make much sense.
People are added as friends just like that, despite the fact that “only fools do that.” They are also added for mass appeal, for status, to fill up their profile.
People often do this without thinking, like robots. What can you ask a robot that is programmed to do a certain action? Nothing.
So I suggest you just make a joke.
Write a text that you will send to everyone you don’t know and who has been added to your friends list.
I would write like this: “hi, I heard a lot about you, you are popular on the networks. It’s so unexpected that you added me as a friend. At first I was blown away, and then I thought that I could be of some help to you. my humble "I'm flattered to meet such an outstanding personality like you. To be honest, I'm just shocked and puzzled. Write if you have time."
Don’t forget, Andrey, that vanity is one of the most serious sins, the most common among people, people are ready to listen to flattery and lies, so write what you want, bluff, and you will understand what they want from you.
In general, only degenerates are added as friends just like that, so don’t worry about asking them questions, and if you’re in the mood, write all sorts of nonsense.